Found the Right Words No. 2: 
I have been thinking a lot about romance. This is in part because the slump experienced by married couples after they’ve been together for too long FREAKS ME OUT. Lately, I have been engaging in some pretty disheartening conversations with the coupled people in my world. I have gleaned that marriage this REALLY sacrificial thing that demands EVERYTHING. That’s fine. I think I can manage that. However, it also seems like after the ‘I-Dos” excitement and adventure VANISH. Why?!


I want it to be different. I want to keep the excitement and the mystery ALIVE. Complacency is way to terrifying. I know that I am a romantic who probably spends a little too much time ideating. However, I firmly believe in romance. Excitement and adventure are absolutely necessary. I am going believe this even when bullshit lurks and the minutiae weighs me down. I wanted to declare this in a public forum (to the 10 people who read this blog—-love you!) because I am afraid that I will become one of them. Consider this my manifesto on adventurous love. Gertrude Stein had it right: romance IS everything.

Found the Right Words No. 2: 

I have been thinking a lot about romance. This is in part because the slump experienced by married couples after they’ve been together for too long FREAKS ME OUT. Lately, I have been engaging in some pretty disheartening conversations with the coupled people in my world. I have gleaned that marriage this REALLY sacrificial thing that demands EVERYTHING. That’s fine. I think I can manage that. However, it also seems like after the ‘I-Dos” excitement and adventure VANISH. Why?!

I want it to be different. I want to keep the excitement and the mystery ALIVE. Complacency is way to terrifying. I know that I am a romantic who probably spends a little too much time ideating. However, I firmly believe in romance. Excitement and adventure are absolutely necessary. I am going believe this even when bullshit lurks and the minutiae weighs me down. I wanted to declare this in a public forum (to the 10 people who read this blog—-love you!) because I am afraid that I will become one of them. Consider this my manifesto on adventurous love. Gertrude Stein had it right: romance IS everything.

#foundtherightwords no. 1: 
“We started out sipping the water/ And now we try to swallow the wave/ And we try not to let those bastards get us down /We don’t worry anymore cause we know when the guff comes we get brave?After all, look around/It’s happening, it’s happening, it’s happening now”- Fiona Apple. 
So much has changed in the past few months. And I have to confess: All the transitioning has left me with a profound case of writer’s block. However, I have been devouring others people’s words LIKE CRAZY. In the midst of all the changes, I have been assembling a precious collection of short passages, song lyrics, and quotations that truly capture my experience. Maybe they will inspire you too. 
It seems that the life of the bona fide entrepreneur is riddled with uncertainty. Furthermore, I see that God keeps putting me in situations that DEMAND that I grow exponentially. This process is rough but strangely beautiful. Each obstacle is a wave that makes me more resilient to the bullshit. And when “the guff comes, I am surrounded by amazing individuals who support me and pour into me in ways that simply blow my mind. All the uncertainty in the world is okay with me because I know that God has my back and I am surrounded by the people that I love. 

#foundtherightwords no. 1: 

“We started out sipping the water/ And now we try to swallow the wave/ And we try not to let those bastards get us down /We don’t worry anymore cause we know when the guff comes we get brave?After all, look around/It’s happening, it’s happening, it’s happening now”- Fiona Apple. 

So much has changed in the past few months. And I have to confess: All the transitioning has left me with a profound case of writer’s block. However, I have been devouring others people’s words LIKE CRAZY. In the midst of all the changes, I have been assembling a precious collection of short passages, song lyrics, and quotations that truly capture my experience. Maybe they will inspire you too. 

It seems that the life of the bona fide entrepreneur is riddled with uncertainty. Furthermore, I see that God keeps putting me in situations that DEMAND that I grow exponentially. This process is rough but strangely beautiful. Each obstacle is a wave that makes me more resilient to the bullshit. And when “the guff comes, I am surrounded by amazing individuals who support me and pour into me in ways that simply blow my mind. All the uncertainty in the world is okay with me because I know that God has my back and I am surrounded by the people that I love. 

Hammock!!!!!! #selfie #drinkingtheselfiekoolaid😒 #latergram

Hammock!!!!!! #selfie #drinkingtheselfiekoolaid😒 #latergram

New Year’s resolution número dos is working out! @loveinsuchabundance #moregirlfriends #piecesofthepeopleilove #latergram

New Year’s resolution número dos is working out! @loveinsuchabundance #moregirlfriends #piecesofthepeopleilove #latergram

Roommate. Friend. Brother. (At home in our kitchen) #latergram

Roommate. Friend. Brother. (At home in our kitchen) #latergram

Stussy visit with @craymart today. He shopped and a looked through the Hypebeast issue. #stussy #hypebeast  (at Stussy Store)

Stussy visit with @craymart today. He shopped and a looked through the Hypebeast issue. #stussy #hypebeast (at Stussy Store)

Happy New Year! 🎉 #confetti #beach  (at The Modern Honolulu Spa)

Happy New Year! 🎉 #confetti #beach (at The Modern Honolulu Spa)

New Years Resolution No. 2: Cultivate strong relationships with women.

I met Trish by chance during my first week of work at Fresh Cafe. She sat at a picnic table with her dog for hours while I tried to sell a mountain of my boss’s belongings that had sat in storage for ages. In between assisting visitors as they perused through the assortment of items for sale, we engaged in light conversation. Soon, we were discussing more personal matters and discovered that we both share an interest in photography and in “living purposefully.” Before we parted ways, we exchanged contact information and agreed to embark on a photo excursion through town sometime in the near future. 

I live for encounters like the one with Trish because they just make me feel less alone in the world. Anaïs Nin once said:” Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” My initial reaction is to sardonically dismiss this as the sort of cheese fit for “Thinking of You” cards in the greeting card aisle at the drugstore. But then it sinks in. I just can’t be nonchalant about how magnificently alive I feel when I am cultivating a friendship. And yet, as much as I enjoying sharing my life + witnessing other people’s experiences I still catch myself walling off and withdrawing when the going gets rough. 

These photographs sat on my computer for weeks without being looked at. This day was so full of joy and adventure, and God was SO present. I am publishing them now because I want to believe that having an open heart, being vulnerable, and letting other people love me is scary as shit but absolutely worth it. 

 

New Year’s Resolution: Spend more time caring for homeless people. Last week on Christmas Eve my roommates and I went out to the distribute small care packages to homeless folks in Aala Park. I was the happiest I have been in weeks. It made me realize that I want to spend more time out in the city loving on the people who live here. Honolulu has really become my home in the past year. This M83 lyric inspires me to get out there. The impact of these actions might be small, but I can feel it’s a step in the right direction. #love #newyear #reflecting #resolution

New Year’s Resolution: Spend more time caring for homeless people. Last week on Christmas Eve my roommates and I went out to the distribute small care packages to homeless folks in Aala Park. I was the happiest I have been in weeks. It made me realize that I want to spend more time out in the city loving on the people who live here. Honolulu has really become my home in the past year. This M83 lyric inspires me to get out there. The impact of these actions might be small, but I can feel it’s a step in the right direction. #love #newyear #reflecting #resolution

Today’s creation 😋👌 I have always loved drinking Peppermint Hot Chocolates—especially during  long and cold Decembers in NYC. The weather is da ream here but I still crave these when it rains. This drink is part of this month’s Eating with the Seasons dessert only menu 🎉🎄🎅. Crushed candy canes and whip cream make it 😍. #ewtshi #freshcafehi #supportyourlocalcafe #supportME #haha

Today’s creation 😋👌 I have always loved drinking Peppermint Hot Chocolates—especially during long and cold Decembers in NYC. The weather is da ream here but I still crave these when it rains. This drink is part of this month’s Eating with the Seasons dessert only menu 🎉🎄🎅. Crushed candy canes and whip cream make it 😍. #ewtshi #freshcafehi #supportyourlocalcafe #supportME #haha